Tis the season to hide in the pillow fort

[st_aurafina]

My family was not on its best behaviour this year, and I'm judging from the news and from my flist that I'm by far not alone here. I have spent the last couple of years working really hard on building coping mechanisms for when the fur is flying between the most dysfunctional of my family members. I'm getting better at not beating up on myself. Doesn't make it any easier to be around people at work who are excited about their families coming together. I'm getting to the place where I know that mine is never going to be a happy, close family.

You guys, my online friends, you guys are the ones who make this a safe space for me. I just wanted to share around some hugs, for people like me who need them right now. It's okay if this time of year isn't fun for you. It's okay to be kind to yourself.

Comments

[vass]

*all the hugs*

Pillow forts, you say?

http://www.reddit.com/r/Forts/
http://fuckyeahpillowforts.tumblr.com

[st_aurafina]

*hugs hugs* Ooh, I'm following that tumblr like, right now.

[lonelywalker]

Giraffes!

*Yuletide hugs*

[st_aurafina]

Yuletide hugs are good hugs. Thank you.

[sharpeningthebones]

*leans on and understand entirely*

[st_aurafina]

*leans back* There's this conspiracy of silence on having an unhappy family, I think? It felt good to say it, anyway.

[senmut]

Psst. You're kinda awesome, you know? So's your other half. And while people can be kinda cruddy, it passes.

+hugs+

You both are my heroes.

[st_aurafina]

*smishes* You too, bb. And yeah, it passes and it comes back and that's how it is. I'm getting there with accepting it.

[weaverbird]

{{{hugs}}}

This time of year can be so rough - and a pillow fort sounds like a great idea.

Also: omg n'awwwwwww giraffes!

[st_aurafina]

*hugs back* Giraffe head hugs make up for a lot. And pillow forts.

[hope]

<3 hang in there!! I hope all your family stuff is over for the season and you can focus on the good things and people now. *hugs*

[st_aurafina]

*hugs back* You too! I think the family stuff is done, though, knowing them, they'll be rehashing stuff until next Christmas. But I don't have to hear any of that. Not in my pillow fort.

[marienska]

*cheers up*
Right now Family Gathering has become "how to survive in hostile territory"!

[st_aurafina]

Welcome to the pillow fort of survival. You are not the only one, for sure.

[untonuggan]

SIGN ME UP FOR THE PILLOW FORT, plz.

[st_aurafina]

YOU HAVE A FREE ALL-YEAR PASS! Let's sit inside and do stuff with yarn!

[untonuggan]

I am sooooooooooo learning how to inkle weave this year. It is on the list of things to play with/curse at.

[lurkingcat]

*Sends internet hugs. And more pillows for the fort.*

[st_aurafina]

*piles up the pillows and flumps into them*

[retsuko]

*hugs*

Sorry to hear that it didn't go well.

[st_aurafina]

*hugs back* It's done now, till the next thing. And pillow fort endures.

[kaffy_r]

I'm thinking of you. Make your fort comfy and inviting, and we'll all be there when you want us to be (and we'll leave when you need time alone.)

[st_aurafina]

*hugs* I think that establishing Fort Pillow was an important step on the road to a saner me. And you're always welcome.

[lark_ascends]

*hugs you hard*

[shehasathree]

Boo your family.
Fortitude!! ;p
♥