2020 Friending Meme

[st_aurafina]

This helped me a lot in early 2017 when Trump had just been elected, and I am hoping we can get the same feeling going again, after the UK election was such a shock.

Connections are important when it feels like the world is getting darker. Fandom is a huge and strong network of people. We don't always get along, but we're stronger together.

Make new friends, reconnect with those who have drifted, enlarge your circle, and know you are not alone.

To play, cut and paste this text into a comment, fill out the details and tell us about yourself. Then go find new people to add.

<strong>DW username</strong>: <strong>Preferred pronouns:</strong> <strong>Other platforms (tumblr, twitter, etc)</strong>: <strong>Active/primary interests or fandoms</strong>: (keep this fairly short, so people will read it!) <strong>If you've seen me around, it's probably because</strong>: (how might people have seen you online / in fandom?) <strong>I post about</strong>: (fandom, real life, or a combination) <strong>I post/check my feed</strong>: (daily, weekly, twice a year, etc) <strong>I want to find people that post about</strong>: (specific fandoms, fandom in general, books, RL, SJ, etc) <strong>I am most interested in interacting with people on:</strong> (DW, Twitter, Tumblr, etc) <strong>My blog is</strong>: (public, selectively public, friends-only) <strong>Anything else you need to know about me:</strong> (A good place to talk about your fandom shipping preferences, characters, type of fic/art/etc you like. Or link to your intro post. Or put a cute photo of your cat.)

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Play nice.

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<a href="https://st-aurafina.dreamwidth.org/287751.html"><img src="https://i.imgur.com/ooqK0gK.png" alt="Let's Stick Together: a friending meme for a new year. Image is two giraffes, one leaning almost at right angles to put their head on their friend's neck."></a>

ETA on Sat morning AEST: This text box was functionally busted a few hours ago, so if you grabbed the code then, you might have an image with no link. It's fixed now, with all new alt text for screen readers. If your promo link is just an image, please replace the code with what's in the box now. Thanks for all the posts, btw! Giraffes popping up everywhere.

Comments

[ng_moonmoth]

Nonbinary. Me too.

My intro comment is over here.

[ng_moonmoth]

Also genderqueer, and interested in interacting with other genderqueer people.

My intro comment is over here.

[ng_moonmoth]

Tired of seeing stuff by "white folks" narrating the lives of people who don't look or behave like them. I prefer an unfiltered view, and don't have enough of it.

My intro comment is over here.

[ng_moonmoth]

Yeah, I have issues with pronouns, too. Someone else's idea of who they think you are, or should be. Better they should talk with me and find out.

My intro comment is over here.

[ng_moonmoth]

Like you, I also came late to understanding I'm not straight.

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[nerakrose]

welcome!

[paulamcg]

It’s good to know I’m not the only one. Thanks for adding, and I’m adding you back!

[ng_moonmoth]

I suspect there are more of us out there than we let on -- probably because it conflicts with the default narrative of figuring it out early. And being able to survive the discomfort of acting straight until all of a sudden we can't. Does any of that ring a bell?

[paulamcg]

Yes, you must be right. In my case, however, somehow… well, the show just goes on and people hardly notice that I’ve stopped acting. I’ve simply got divorced, but I’ve got the (now adult) children and I hardly dare hope to find a new partner because I’m (homoromantic) asexual.

[rattfan]

Well, I haven't ruled Wellington out yet, let's say, though funds are very tight at the moment. It'll be annoying if I can't go, considering it'll be cheaper than any other Worldcon I've been to except Melbourne! I've got the long service leave available from work, everything, except *money*!

But hopefully.
You're in North America; is that right? I've always enjoyed visiting America :-) Happy to subscribe to you and we'll see how we go.

[ng_moonmoth]

>> Well, I haven't ruled Wellington out yet, [...] I've got the long service leave available from work, everything, except *money*! <<

Hope the first part of the year is financially kind enough to you that you feel you can afford the trip. It's the fans that make Worldcon what it is, and I always root for more local fans to find ways to get there.

>> You're in North America; is that right? I've always enjoyed visiting America :-) <<

Wondering where you've gotten to and what you saw while you were there.

[ng_moonmoth]

Also gender-variant (nonbinary). Also a foodie. Looks like a good start.

My intro comment is over here.

[ng_moonmoth]

I'm actively seeking out non-US voices to gain other perspectives. And also bi, although it's not likely to ever show.

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[ng_moonmoth]

I especially like people who are queer-friendly without being queer themselves, and wish there were more of them. And am also sensitive about who gets what information about me, and have been for a long time.

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[ng_moonmoth]

Actively seeking a worldwide reading list for better perspective. And on the ace spectrum myself (demi, and slow to form the required emotional connections).

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[ng_moonmoth]

Right with you on the bi. And finding "demi" clarified a bunch of things for me.

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[ng_moonmoth]

I can't tell from your blog, but I would definitely find your perspective as a gaijin worthwhile if it showed up. "Queer-friendly" is another plus (genderqueer nonbinary here).

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[ng_moonmoth]

Nonbinary, like me. Non-US, unlike me. Worth taking a look at on both counts.

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[ng_moonmoth]

Actively adding more non-mainstream voices to my reading list for better perspective.

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[ng_moonmoth]

Looking forward to the next time our respective women's teams face off in their monumental battle for hockey dominance.

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[ng_moonmoth]

I'm generally interested in anyone challenging presumptive gendering with their pronouns.

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[ng_moonmoth]

Another genderqueer person here. Demiromantic myself, which wound up hiding any biromantic tendencies. There are a couple of possibly worthwhile relationships I may have missed because of that.

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[ng_moonmoth]

Meta and analytic is good; I love picking things apart to see how they work (or not). Bi is good too; I'm much more interested in who someone is than what their crotch looks like.

My intro comment is over here.

[ng_moonmoth]

Also nonbinary, and I am pulling my gender and sexuality away from all stereotypical associations -- which is inescapably queer.

My intro comment is over here.

[sagemessalina]

Okay! I poked around on your journal, but couldn't tell a few things. Where are you based? What's your background or interest in Japan?

Gaijin designation, and its importance, is one of the things I find a little draining about living here. (I was clearly an outsider when I lived in Vietnam and Korea too, but my otherness wasn't a defining feature of national identity.)



I'm interested in trans and nonbinary issues, and am currently trying to get better with neopronouns.